Turning Relationship Woes into Successes
Enjoying each other
Learning to handle difficult relationships in a healthy manner is a challenge, isn’t it! We are unique, complex, opinionated, hurt, motivated and depressed, along with a million other things that can be named, but you get the picture. How do we handle the one person who frustrates and irritates us to no end?
The first place I start is to understand their personality. My favorite personality chart is the color chart. It’s simple, easy to follow, fun and relatively easy to remember. Below is a chart closest to the one I learned. I had to change some things around, so if you should visit the URL, you won’t find it exactly the same.
Color Personality chart compliments of http://www.docstoc.com/docs/409272/Personality-Colour-Chart
NURTURER BLUE
- Sensitive To Needs Of Others.
- Sincere. Expresses Appreciation.
- Cooperative. Collaborative. Creative.
- Caring. Team Builder And Player.
- People Person. Engages Others.
- Artistic. Inspirational. Spiritual.
- Inclusive. Mediator. Peacemaker.
- Idealistic. Intuitive. Romantic. Loyal.
- Seeks Unity And Harmony. Caretaker.
- Weaknesses: Over-sensitive, followers, not goal oriented
- Dress: Casual, comfortable
- Strengths: Dependable, team player, patient, supportive, nurturing
- Dislikes: Pushy ppl, bullies, conflict
- Key words: Team, together, relationship, family
ADVENTUROUS ORANGE
- “Just Do It” Action Oriented.
- Quick-witted, Charming, Spontaneous
- Playful. Injects fun into work.
- Lives In Here & Now. Risk taker. Creative.
- Enjoys Diversity, Variety, and Competition.
- Multi-tasker, Cheerful, Energetic. Bold.
- Quick Thinking and Acting. Takes Charge.
- High Visibility Performer. Accepts Challenges.
- Enjoys Problem Solving. Negotiator.
- Performs Well Under Pressure. Resilient.
- Voice: Loud and fast
- Dress: Stylish, flamboyant, colorful
- Strengths: Promoters, convincing, enthusiastic, positive, high energy
- Weaknesses: Talk to much, poor follow-up, unorganized, exaggerate
- Key words: FUN, excitement, freedom, lifestyle
- Dislikes: Not having fun, facts and figures, bored
TRADITIONAL GOLD
- Respects Authority Rules, Routines, Policies.
- Faithful, Dependable, Prepared, Efficient.
- Remembers The Traditions That Work. Values Family.
- Work Comes Before Play. Practical. Systematic. Orderly.
- Identifies With Groups. Strives For A Sense Of Security.
- Thorough, Sensible, Conventional, Proper.
- A Right Way To Do Everything. Stick-To-Itivness.
- Evaluates Actions As Right Or Wrong.
- Stable. Organized. Punctual. Helpful.
- Voice: Soft and polite
- Dress: Formal and conservative
- Strengths: Organized, planners, accurate, persistant, great follow through
- Weaknesses: Over-analytical, hard to please, depressed, lonely
- Key words: Why, graphs, charts, research, exactly
- Dislikes: Pushy people, no facts, being late, lazy people
VISIONARY GREEN
- Looks Forward And Sees Impact Of Actions Taken Now.
- Explores All Facets Before Deciding. Checks for Accuracy.
- Careful Planner. Systemataic. Enlivened By Work.
- Status Quo Buster. Designer Of Change. Inventive.
- Systematic. Logical. Theoretical. Self-Sufficient.
- Often Not In The Mainstream. Persistent. Thorough.
- Intellectual. Inquisitive. Impartial. Improvement Oriented.
- Voice: Soft and gentle
- Dress: Formal, comfortable
- Strengths: Dependable, team player, patient, supportive and nurturing
- Weaknesses: Outgoing, not goal oriented
- Key Words: Team, together, relationships, family
- Dislikes: Pushy people, bullies, conflict
Do you see yourself in this chart? You may be more than one color. I am Blue with my secondary color being Orange. I also have had outside influences which have left me with some characteristics of Green; although Green is not the color personality I was born with.
My husband is a Green with his secondary being Orange. Part of the Orange in my husband I can relate to is “Multi-tasker and risk taking”. I’m great at multi-tasking but I also take risks. It’s why at the age of 40 I got my motorcycle license and rode a motorcycle for the first time in my life. But as far as the Green in him, I have to go strictly by the chart to understand his thinking style. Understanding his Green has helped me to relate to his way of doing things… for instance, Greens really dislike conflict, meaning every time I wanted to discuss something – it was considered conflict, arguing and he would shut down. When I finally understood this, I was able to talk to him about how to discuss these kinds of matters without leaving a bitter distaste in either of our mouths, bringing about resolution as the outcome. It’s really cool! I use this same method for my children, my friends, those I coach… matter of fact, I teach these techniques to those I coach. It helps them understand themselves as well as others. It’s an empowering tool that will last the rest of their lives.
Second thing I consider is to understand any other influences. Circumstances, health issues, concerns, addictions and so on. Understanding one’s personality is a great place to start, but not the only thing to take into consideration. For instance, if someone just lost a relationship, they are not going to act their everyday normal self, maybe moody and depressed. If a women has started her period, if someone is diabetic or has the flu… maybe they are facing foreclosure.. All of these things can add something more to someone’s personality and if you know what to look for, you can see these changes as being momentary rather than whom they are! I hope my tips help to get you onto the right track to relationship success, as there is so much more to learn, but hey, it’s a great start!
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A good post there Veronica
! Great job 
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Wow, a personality of a person is shaped by just so many things, parents, childhood, experiences, relatives, events, friends, teachers, incidents, and etc. Its something that keeps evolving and transforming at the earlier stages of life but it continues on even after the person is grown up, but then its occasionally due to mindset that flows in a specific direction.
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And many times it also maybe that a person has characteristics of more than 2 – 3 colors in the personality color chart.
God has really blessed humans with so much, so many traits & talents, a reason why there isn’t a theory in psychology
Thanks for sharing your views with us
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Good morning Veronica!
This post is intriguing for sure. I read these charts over several times & at different times. I kept coming up with the same outcome. I cannot pinpoint one main definite color for myself. It seems I’m a total mix for sure. Maybe it’s because I’m a Gemini with Virgo rising hahaha
Although I’m not in a relationship right now (It’s been 2 years – I took a relationship/dating sabbatical and it’s been complete bliss!! ~ After my marriage to my children’s Dad ended several years ago and I was ready to get into other relationships, I unfortunately chose two of the same type of men both of whom turned out to be losers ~ can you say overly controlling, stalkers & more! I learned a ton however, so it was a blessing in disguise).
I digressed sorry! Anyway so, although I’m not in a relationship right now, these charts would be fun to keep for some possible insight into a future relationship!
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